Do NOT tell me that because you are the parent and I am your child that it gives you the right to verbally abuse me.
Do NOT tell me that I need to learn how to communicate when I’m communicating the way you have taught me to for the last 19 years.
And last but not least do NOT tell me that I’m insignificant until I can pay my own bills.
red flags for abusive parents:
• “stop crying or I’ll give you something real to cry about!”
• “you got a 98%? where did the other two percent go?”
• dismisses illnesses/disabilities as laziness
Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace."
i’m genuinely concerned that no one will fall in love with me